AS I MENTIONED EARLIER, freedom always comes at a cost. If you want it, you will have to pay the price. And if you are not willing, you will pay the price for bondage.
Freedom is to bondage what intimacy is to isolation.
Intimacy occurs when you are in the company of another person and you feel safe to be your real self, without masks and costumes. This is freedom.
Intimacy is not when you are physically undressed, but rather when the spirit and soul of who you are is naked.
If you are only physically undressed in the company of another, you may engage in what is called sexual intimacy, but unless you are spiritually and emotionally naked, you will not experience the intimacy I am talking about.
And by the way, given enough time, without spiritual and emotional intimacy, sexual intercourse will fail to give you what you most want in a love relationship.
In other words, you can have sexual intercourse and still not get your needs met for love, respect, significance, and security.
This is why so many couples complain about the sex “not doing it for them” any longer. Who they really are is hiding from the other. Or vice-versa.
Make no mistake; the orgasm is not the end goal of sexual intercourse.
The orgasm is simply the reset button. It brings you to a state of euphoria, where all is well with your soul.
For a brief moment.
However, one does not need intimacy or another human being to reach euphoria. One can achieve this goal while in isolation—accompanied by those nasty feelings of “the morning after”, filled with shame, guilt, humiliation, and a longing for love, respect, significance, and security.
We were created for intimacy.
When we were very young, we were intimate and until someone dressed us, we were happy to run around naked.
Until someone laughed at us, we were happy to share our dreams—big dreams—about our future.
Until someone told us his or her opinion of the “right and wrong” way to think and behave, we thought and behaved, as we wanted.
And until we had our first experience of losing some measure of love, respect, significance, and security, we lived and loved with refreshing innocence.
And vulnerability.
Isolation occurs with a decision, and it is a decision that you make. Unfortunately, you make that decision, more often than not, unconscious that you will pay the price with your real self.
It is impossible to be both naked and covered.
You want to be naked, but you also want the protection that covering provides. ‘If only…you didn’t lose some measure of love, respect, significance, and security when you were a child, things would be different for you today.
If only…everyone else could be honest about who they really are, then you could too.’
These are the words Death will speak to you as you live your life inside the walls of your self-designed prison. Where the oxygen is getting thin, the days are long, and the months and years are flying by.
There is a way out, but you cannot save yourself.
You are powerless to break free because, let’s be honest about this; it was your best thinking that got you entrapped.
Somewhere in your youth, you believed you would die if whatever happened or did not happen. And that’s when Death had your listening ear and showed you the way that you thought was freedom.
Isolation occurs with a decision, but so does freedom.
Shall you pay the price for freedom? If so, consider the cost, because, like bondage, the cost of freedom is high.
The price for freedom is your life.
“Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.”—Jesus (John 12:24)
Romans 6:6-7, Romans 8:15, Hebrews 2:14-15, Psalm118:5, John 3:3-7, Titus 3:5, Galatians 5:1, Ephesians 2:8-10,Romans 8:9, 1 Corinthians 2:14, John 8:36
As always, it is my intent and hope that my words may encourage you wherever you are in your journey.
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If anyone has ears to hear, let him hear.–Jesus(Mark 4:23)
